長女は、大学で全米育英会の奨学生に選ばれ、Yale, Swarthmore, Santa Cruz, Pomonaなどの 4つの大学に合格した。成績は優秀で、今はUniversity of Coloradoの博士課程で勉強に励む傍ら、他に経営コンサルタント、日系市民連盟の役員、そして家庭での役割などいくつもこなしている。
Here's some interesting message came in from Hideharu. About 50 years ago, he adopted two small girls when both were 5 years old. He kindly took custody of them from "Elizabeth Sanders Home" located in Oiso town in Kanagawa Pref. The orphanage at that time was called "Home for children without parents", the founder of which is called Ms. Miki Sawada who was a grand-daughter of Mr. Yotaro Iwasaki from the famous Mitsubishi Financially Combined Group.
I know we have succeeded in some areas and failed in someareas.
We tried to do things together as much as possible. We took many trips throughout the United States by a camper, wa liked mountain trails, took them along when we attended academic meetings, etc.
The two girls came from entirely different backgrounds, and their natural inclinations were very different. The older one lived with her mother until she was 5 years old and was loved by her mother. The younger one was first placed when she was only three months old until she was five years old before she moved to Elizabeth Sanders Home. The previous Home did not feed the children well and misused the funds. The younger one had almost no teeth and weighed only 11.34kiro.
We send both children to college, but the older one did well, but the younger one did not.
She went to college for 7 years but did not graduate and did not get a community college degree. But the older one became a national merit scholar.
She was accepted by all the four colleges and universities including Yale, Swarthmore, Santa Cruz, Pomona. She graduated from Swa rthmore with honors and received a Master's from another college, and now she is in the Ph.D. program at the University of Colorado.
However, I don't know if she would be able to finish all the requirements because of her full time job as a management consultant, taking care of the family and being on the board of the Japanese american Cicitizens' League, etc.
The younger one was married with two children, but now divorced. She tried many jobs, but now takes care of old people who can not take care of themselves. She is taking care of herself, even though I have to help her financially from time to time. But I am satisfied that she is taking care of herself.
We tried to encourage our girls and tried to praise they have done
something well. We kept praising the younger one because she needed it more then the older one. We more or less took for granted that the older one will do at any late. Later she told me that she
felt shortchanged because we did not praise her as much as we did the younger one.
If we praise...the older one whenever she did well, what would have happened to the younger one. The latter would have retreated into herself more. It has come to a point that she began to think the older one can do anything the younger one can not do. we found that in a class at school the younger one was asked to do something. She said to the teacher that she can not do it but her older sister can. We explained to the older one why we praised her sister frequently. The older one understood, but neverthless she felt cheated.
The two chidren and I are in good relationship and communicate with each other. They were loved by their grandparents (my wife's parents) often taking trips thoughout the U.S.So I have to say that we did well under the circumstances.